Two weeks ago I listened to a youtube video staring Tony Robbins. I'm so not into the life coach thing, but it's interesting to see why I am the way I am.
I still think I'm justified and it has served me well.
The most interesting thing about this video about the 7 things needed was community. I never felt part of a group. Always the outsider. Even when I'm embraced within a group, I don't like what I see and try to change it. But groups don't like change.
But now enters a child without siblings. All she wants are friends. Each friend that selects her, gets her into trouble. They lock themselves into a locker with her in the room and point fingers at her.
She is at fault. She's looking for inclusion and it is pretty funny.
This lead us to the case of the recent bullying on the ice rink. After months of dirty looks, telling her coach, and waiting to talk to her mom, I asked her, a 12 yo to stop bullying an 8yo.
This was wrong. I know it. Even as the best skater on the team, she was cut.
I'm sort of happy. I wanted to take off a few years and work on FS. Also we are trying to sell our house and relocated.
It's as if there's a plan for us.
Only time will reveal itself.
Thursday, May 2, 2013
Wednesday, May 1, 2013
Life Happens
Why is it when I'm on the fence about something, the outcome always turns out to be exactly what I really wanted? See J'accuse.
My problem is that now I have a daughter. And what I want, may not be what she wants. Or what's good for her in the long run. And herein lies the dilemma.
It's team tryouts again. Due to circumstances I don't want to get into, I don't want to spend $5,500 (team dues and expenses) to be on the team again this year. We had a great year. However, we did not get along with the team members for this coming season. I was going to suck it up for her sake. But they beat us to it. She would have been one of the youngest and the most accomplished skater on the team. The coaches didn't like me.
But the team spirit thing is sometimes taken too far. Too many parties, celebrations, little freebies given out by moms who have the least talented children on the team is really so not who we are.
This is why I like test. Tests do not play favorites.
And I can finally say this without fear, there's a team coach who I've never seen wash her hands after leaving the bathroom stall.
Glad I got that off my chest.
My problem is that now I have a daughter. And what I want, may not be what she wants. Or what's good for her in the long run. And herein lies the dilemma.
It's team tryouts again. Due to circumstances I don't want to get into, I don't want to spend $5,500 (team dues and expenses) to be on the team again this year. We had a great year. However, we did not get along with the team members for this coming season. I was going to suck it up for her sake. But they beat us to it. She would have been one of the youngest and the most accomplished skater on the team. The coaches didn't like me.
But the team spirit thing is sometimes taken too far. Too many parties, celebrations, little freebies given out by moms who have the least talented children on the team is really so not who we are.
This is why I like test. Tests do not play favorites.
And I can finally say this without fear, there's a team coach who I've never seen wash her hands after leaving the bathroom stall.
Glad I got that off my chest.
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